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Handle the Holidays
Posted: February 9, 2011
Last Updated: February 9, 2011

December is supposed to be a time of joyful celebration and good cheer, a time to ward off the darkness of winter with lights and holiday cheer. Yet, for many people the season can become overwhelming with all the expectations, stress, and overspending associated with the holidays. These intense seasonal expectations that go unmet and cause bouts of sadness and depression are known as the Holiday Blues.


Holiday blues may occur on any holiday or vacation time. Many factors contribute to the holiday blues include: increased stress, fatigue, unrealistic expectations for the holiday season, inability to be with family, memories of past holiday celebrations, over commercialization, change in diet, and change in daily routines. The increased demands of shopping, family gatherings, parties, and houseguests can add stress and anxiety to the holidays for anyone.


Symptoms of the holiday blues can include: headaches, trouble sleeping or sleeping too much, changes in weight, anxiety, and excessive feelings of guilt. To relieve these symptoms try the health tips below or find ways to relieve your stress by taking time for yourself, expressing your feelings to others, or asking for help from other family members with shopping or preparing for holiday events.


Some tips to ward off holiday blues:

  • Establish realistic goals and expectations for the holiday season. If your family can’t be together mail them a card to let them know you are thinking about them. Consider reaching out and call a friend or family member to talk. Communicate your feelings constructively and honestly.
  • Limit your drinking. Alcohol consumption can affect mood and body chemistry, by limiting drinking you can lessen bouts of depression and keep your body chemistry at a normal level. Substitute seltzer water in drinks for a bubbly low calorie replacement for alcohol or champagne.
  • Don’t feel pushed to be festive. Accept your feelings and do not force yourself to specific feelings. If you have experienced a recent tragedy, a death or break-up, be honest about your feelings and tell people.
  • Know your spending limit and stick to it. Not everyone needs an expensive gift, simply spending time with family and friends shows you care; a small card or thoughtful letter is more than enough to let them know you are thinking of them. Many people overspend and end up paying for the holiday’s months later. Keep to your budget or make simple craft gifts to hand out to extended family and friends with your children.
  • Exercise regularly. A daily walk or trip to the gym can relieve build up stress and aid in keeping off those holiday pounds. It also helps promote regular sleeping patterns, one of the major symptoms of the Holiday Blues.
  • Avoid overbooking. Prioritize the events, parties and gatherings you want to attend. The entire month can seem overwhelming when you look at a calendar filled with school events, business parties, and family gatherings. Know your limits on being social and schedule a little down time to recharge your batteries. A quiet night at home can help you to enjoy your family all the more the next day.


If you need help staying mentally healthy this holiday season call Border Area Mental Health Services. To reach Border Area Mental Health Services in Grant and Hidalgo Counties, call 388-4412; in Catron County, call 533-6649; in Luna County, call 546-2174.  For CRISIS, call 538-3488 or outside Silver City, call 1-800-426-0997.

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